Marriage

[Guest Ian & Carole]

Ian-The Thoughtful Husband...

 

 

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over-sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.

 

My name is Ian. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Carole. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Carole to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.

 

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked food when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.

 

I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

 

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

 

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

 

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Carole. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.

Many men will find it difficult.

Some will find it impossible!

Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older.

 

However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.

After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

 

 

Signed,

 

Ian J

 

ps don't forget it's Caroles ?1st birthday @ Dodington Show !!!!!

 

See you all there

 

Ian J

[Mat-Moo]

LOL

[Guest salty_monk]

Yeah right.... I bet you can't even play golf

[miikae]

That sounds very much like the first chapter of one of Spike Milligans books where he was talking to his dad about the way that woman was so gracefull with the pick and shovel a lovely mover too , then he said that air raid will be a lovely job when your mum finishes it , pass me the brown ale son .

[Longboarder]

Should be easy to spot you at Donny, Ian. You'll be the one with the pained expression, modelling your twisticles as a bowtie. Unless Carole has fed them to Baskerville.

 

Nigel

[stevedohc2b]

Ian I can only agree with your observations as I am having the same problems with mine.

 

I how work shifts so we see less of each other.

Lesley has a part time job only 3 hours as a cleaner, yet I still find dust around the house.

I do my bit I leave help full notes clean me written in the dust.

I have offered to get a cleaner at home as well. But the cost would out way her working, I don’t mind that as it gets Lesley out meeting people.

 

I do my bit go to work do DIY, I sort the paint colour and brushes for Lesley .

I don't ask for much like a cup of tea in bed in the morning, I find the cats have to be fed first, by then I have gone back to sleep. She carries on with her duties and moans that my tea has got cold and not been touched.

I would gladly make the tea when I get up to start work on the other shift but at 5 am that too does not get touched.

 

The garden is an other area, I have to move the cars so Lesley can cut the grass, I pleed with her wait till the rain stops.

 

Ian I think your knowledge and training of the opposite sex needs to be passed on to me with a drink at Donningtion.

 

Stephen

[Guest Ian & Carole]

Steven

 

I asume like Carole, Lesley does not know your RHOCar login and password

 

Ian J

 

 

(going under ground 'till after Donnington)

[trextr7monkey]

Man you love living life on the edge down there!!!

[Guest gdc]

you two are braver or dafter than me !!!!!!!!!!

 

you are crusing for a brusing from her in doors.

 

any way ian are you up for getting realy pi ed up at donny again?

 

be carefull!

 

regards graham

 

ohh by the way best regards carole and lesley.

 

see i know how to treat a woman !you creap a lot.

[Guest Ian & Carole]

Graham

 

See you Saturday morning, see what happens Saturday night you never know

 

you'll get me a bad name

 

Ian J

[Guest gdc]

hic! HIC!

[Guest macca]

I might print this thread, and take 100 copies to donnington, Im sure I could get £1 a copy from the offenders...

 

from

 

Macca's better half.......

[Guest Ian & Carole]

Worth more than £1 a copy

 

Ian J

[Guest Bob's Babe]

BOYS!!!

 

 

you forget that there are other ladies on here that will rat on you no matter what the bribe you offer!!!

 

SUE

[stevedohc2b]

you two are braver or dafter than me !!!!!!!!!!

 

you are crusing for a brusing from her in doors.

 

any way ian are you up for getting realy pi ed up at donny again?

 

be carefull!

 

regards graham

 

ohh by the way best regards carole and lesley.

 

see i know how to treat a woman !you creap a lot.

Yes I know who wares the trousers in your house.

 

How was the drive home sunday? is it still running as it went bang last time.

 

stephen